Title: You Will Get Through This Night
Author: Daniel Howell
Publication Date: 18 May 2021
Synopsis: Written by Daniel Howell, in conjunction with a qualified psychologist, in an entertaining and personal way from the perspective of someone who has been through it all—this no-nonsense book gives you the tools to understand your mind so you can be in control and really live. Split into three chapters for each stage of the journey:
This Night – how to get through your toughest moments and be prepared to face anything.
Tomorrow – small steps to change your thoughts and actions with a big impact on your life.
The Days After – help to look after yourself in the long term and not just survive, but thrive.
You will laugh and learn—but most of all, this book will assure you that even in your darkest times, there is always hope.
You will get through this night.
Format: Hardback courtesy of Harper Collins Australia
Disclaimer: I received a finished copy from the publisher in exchange for an honest review. This has no way impacted my thoughts.
Rating: 5/5 stars
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Content warnings for this book, and for this post: Mental illness, suicidal mentions, depression, and anxiety.
Grab yourself a cuppa because this is probably going to get long. And probably a bit personal (from me) too.
First of all – thank you to Harper Collins Australia for gifting me this finished copy of Daniel Howell’s book. It means more to me than you’ll ever know.
I have been a fan of Dan (and of Phil – danisnotonfire and amazingphil on YouTube) for many years now, and knowing that Dan has not only poured his heart and soul into this book, but has sought out the help of a psychological professional to make sure that it was as factual as possible makes my heart sing.
This is a non-fiction, practical mental health guide. This isn’t a fictional novel, and there aren’t characters to lose yourself in.
This is a book I could have used when I had a breakdown in 2015, and then again when I tried to kill myself that same year.
There are three main sections of this book: This Night, Tomorrow, and The Days After That. Each section contains very helpful insights and advice (all thoroughly fact checked by Doctor Heather Bolton, the psychological consultant of this book) that anyone facing mental illness, or depression can probably use.
I say probably because not all of the exercises are going to be a perfect fit for everyone. But there are plenty inside this book that you should be able to find one, or more, that will help you if you need it.
Many of us face anxiety in our lives, and stress that takes over so much that you find it hard to focus. Daniel gives several grounding exercises that can keep you in the here and hopefully pull you out of that immediate downward spiral.
So many of us ignore the signs of what stress can do to our everyday lives, and also our bodies, and I know for a fact that these would have helped me when I was struggling the most. And since completing the book, I’ve already flipped back through to my favourite ones (this is also a reminder to myself to put a couple of sticky tabs on those ones).
Not only is this book dotted with typical Dan-humour, but it doesn’t talk down to you like I’ve seen some ‘well-meaning’ people, doctors, psychologists, and books, do. This books sees you as the person you are, without all of that extra baggage that comes with someone who may know you.
There are parts in this book that I had to stop and just walk away from because they rang so true to my own mental illness and mental health struggles. But, to me, that also means it’s a sign that I still need these things in my life, and I need to work on those parts of me still. It’s especially helpful because right now I don’t have a therapist of my own, so this book is coming in so very handy for myself. To not only ground myself, but to take stock of my own mental wellbeing and taking note of exactly what I need. And for anyone that doesn’t have a therapist, or isn’t able to access any mental health care, this book is a great starting off point.
This book isn’t designed to be read as a start-to-finish book like a novel, but it’s designed in a way that you can come back to it and pick it up if you need something specific from it. Which isn’t something I’ve seen a lot in books, and I commend not only the creativity of Daniel for this, but also for his foresight.
As Daniel has been someone who has been outspoken about his own mental health issues, specifically his depression, this book really rings true to someone who has experienced those things.
Each of the three main sections has a focus on different topics and how they can affect out mental health as well as our physical health. The part on sleep is something that I knew a bit about, but it’s always so good to know more. I’m an insomniac myself, and can’t sleep without medication, but it’s so good to have that validation right there on paper.
I think one of my biggest loves of this book is in the third part where Dan essentially tells you to feel your feelings – we have them for reasons. And then gives the best advice you can give – see a professional if you feel like your feelings are too much, and if you’ve been experiencing too much for too long.
So many people will tell you to ‘get over it’ and to ‘just be thankful for what you have’ but mental illness and mental health struggles don’t work like that. If they did, no one would be sad.
While some parts of this book don’t address the privilege it is to be able to have and/or seek a mental health professional, the practical guides in here do help with a starting off point for yourself.
I also appreciate the complete honestly Daniel has shared about himself and his struggles and put it out there in this book. Because sometimes it’s just so darn nice to see that other people are thinking, feeling, and experiencing similar, if not the same, things as us. And a little bit of validation goes a long way.
If you are someone who has seen the signs of your own mental health suffering, or even if you just want to talk to someone, please reach out to your local doctor, a mental health professional, or if you’re in Australia please visit or call Beyond Blue
https://www.beyondblue.org.au/about-us/contact-us or phone them on 1300 22 4636
The Beyond Blue website also has a chat feature where you can access help that way if you need it.
If you are international, please seek out a crisis hotline or support centre. And please be careful and wary of whom you confide in. As there are some organisations out there that are not legit. A little bit of research can help your journey start off the right way.